Article: The Cost of Delaying Marriage

I've not thought of it as bad to get married early, and I'm not aware of many people taking that view. Do you think one way or another about this? Have you experienced people disapproving of people getting married in their early twenties?

Girls, do you feel a tension between wanting a relationship and wanting to be free, between having a family and having a career? What do you think about "the desire to be protected and provided for" that is mentioned in the article?

What about this subway analogy the author uses? I wonder if she would consider me "too odd" or in some other way unsatisfactory.

I admit that I feel like I identify with the paragraph on the "biological clock".

"Men will outlast her. Men, particularly successful men, will be attractive and virile into their 50s." Whew! Well, I might not be so successful, but it's good to know that I may have a chance. Lol.

"I suspect that few things are more off-putting to a man eating dinner than to notice that the woman across the table is looking at him more hungrily than at the food on her plate, and she is not hungry for his body but for his whole life." I don't know about that. I think it's just a matter of attraction, and can work both ways. If a guy really likes the girl, then I think he'd be excited. On the other hand, if the girl isn't that interested in the guy, she may be just as put off if the guy is that interested in her.

Do you feel like you have to pretend like you don't care much about what you really want? Do you feel like you have to play a game with guys to try to get them to do what you want?

"I often think that moderately attractive bachelors in their 30s now possess the sexual power that once belonged only to models and millionaires. They have their pick of companions..." Um, yeah, I don't see that happening... it hasn't been my experience at least, however much I might or might not want it to be. Heh.

What do you think about the extended adolescence that the author talks about as happening when a person remains single into their thirties?

"The 33-year-old single woman who decides she wants more from life than her career cannot so readily walk into marriage and children; by postponing them, all she has done is to push them ahead to a point in her life when she has less sexual power to attain them." Do you think it is significantly harder for a woman to get married at thirty than twenty? What do you think about the issue of "sexual power"? Do you think being a thirty something single woman is a bad as the author makes it out to be?

I guess one thing I like about the article is that it balances out some of the other article that fault guys for all of the single women in the world.