Article: Get Married! (Sooner Rather than Later)

Do you think that we don't put that much work into choosing whom we marry? "The fact is, you've been created by God with a body that is ready for sexual activity a decade before most people get married." That is true, and certainly goes into creating many problems, including premarital sex, lust and other frustrations. Do you think we are passive in looking for a spouse as the author suggests? Do you think we ought to be more active, or is passivity the way to go?

Three ideas are put forth. First is that God intends most of us to get married. Do you agree or disagree? I would probably agree myself. The second statement is, "You'll never have a larger pool to draw from for a suitable, godly marriage partner than during your university years." Unfortunately, college is a time which has become notorious for students having a low point in following their standards. So I'm not sure that this would be true. I guess one thought is that after that time so many people are already married or in serious relationship that it narrows the "pool".

The author suggests a couple of more ideas. First, that due to sexual desire, people ought to marry younger. Generally, I would agree. However, I think our culture is such that we keep allowing people to "grow up" slower and slower. Therefore it is true that many people are probably not mature enough to get married as early as might be more ideal. So there is unfortunately not an easy solution here. Secondly the author suggests the sexual desire is a better reason to consider getting married than is the feeling of being "in love". In answering the question of "Should I get married at all or not?", then yes, I see the author's point. However, that doesn't seem to be the question most people are thinking of. The question is, who should I marry. That is a question I don't think sexual desire helps to answer. Depending at how you look at it, it either tells you nothing about who you should marry (only that you should marry), or it says to marry whoever you are sexually attracted to, which would be even a worse basis for marriage than being "in love". In the next section the author suggests that finding a person of character is better than waiting for the right feeling. What do you think?